1. You’re Constantly Second-Guessing Yourself
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you’re able to be yourself and spend time with your partner without worrying about what they think of you. But if you’re constantly second-guessing yourself, you may be in a toxic relationship.
Here are some things to look out for:
- Do you feel like you need to ask your partner for permission to do things?
- Does your partner often disapprove of your decisions?
- Do you feel like you’re being punished for doing things your partner doesn’t like?
- Do you always change your mind to accommodate your partner’s wishes?
- Do you feel like you can’t do anything right around your partner?
2. Your Relationship is Unbalanced
Healthy relationships are give-and-take. There’s plenty of room for compromise, and you share responsibilities and decision-making. When you’re in a toxic relationship, you may find yourself doing all the work while your partner makes little or no effort.
Here are some things to look out for:
- Does your partner refuse to share household responsibilities?
- Does your partner make important decisions without consulting you?
- Do you feel like you’re always the one compromising in the relationship?
- Do you always do things your partner’s way?
- Does your partner take advantage of you?
- Do you feel like you’re always giving and your partner is always taking?
3. Your Partner is Jealous
Jealousy is a natural emotion, but it can become toxic when it leads to unreasonable demands or actions. You may be in a toxic relationship if your partner:
- Doesn’t let you spend time with your family or friends
- Refuses to let you go to work
- Constantly accuses you of cheating
- Gets angry when you spend time with other people
- Is suspicious of you for no reason
- Looks through your phone, email, or social media accounts
4. Your Partner is Controlling
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you can express yourself. Your partner respects your boundaries and gives you space to do your own thing. However, if you’re in a toxic relationship, your partner may use jealousy or possessiveness to control your actions.
Here are some things to look out for:
- Does your partner get angry when you want to spend time with other people?
- Does your partner often accuse you of cheating on them?
- Does your partner get angry if you spend time with your friends or family?
- Does your partner get upset when you talk to other people?
- Does your partner try to control your finances?
- Does your partner try to control your appearance?
5. Your Partner is Abusive
Abuse is a problem in many relationships. There are many different kinds of abuse, but it’s always about one person having more power than another.
Abuse is never a victim’s fault. If you’re being abused, you don’t have to put up with it.
Here are some signs of abuse:
- Does your partner hit, slap, or push you?
- Does your partner pressure you to have sex?
- Does your partner threaten you?
- Does your partner call you names?
- Does your partner blame you for their actions?
- Does your partner try to control you?
- Does your partner humiliate you in front of other people?
- Does your partner make you feel like you can’t live without them?
The ending notes
A healthy relationship is one that is balanced and respectful.
Here are some qualities of a healthy relationship:
- Equal power and control
- Mutual respect
- Trust
- Honesty
- Open communication
- Equality and fairness
- Support
If you’re in a toxic relationship, there’s no shame in leaving. It takes strength to admit that you need help.
If you are seeking help for your relationship Email me at info@claireawada.com. Thank you
